I heard about a book called The Love Dare written by Stephen and Alex Kendrick with Lawrence Kimbrough. Featured in the movie, “Fireproof,” the book is a 40-day challenge for spouses to comprehend and put to practice what it means to have unconditional love. Although I don’t have a spouse to practice unconditional love with, I do have a soon-to-be-ex husband with children. And you know what Grace, I don’t think it would be such a bad idea to read this book and see what I can learn about loving Adam as a co-parent. We still have to raise children together and I’d like to do this in a loving way without the “baby daddy drama.” LOL
So here goes, opening page to “Day 1: Love is Patient.” Wait…I need Merlot by my side. This could be a long night.
Eve, what a wonderful idea! The Love Dare is a great book and it will take you on a journey that will awaken you to a new way of loving yourself and Adam. The best part is that your children will benefit too.
Love is patient . . . Patience is the perfect place to start. When do you find yourself being patient and when do you lose your patience? Are you patient with yourself? Your friends? Your children? Who pushes you to the limit? Take time to reflect about this as you go on this Love Dare walk. This is not about trying to get to the finish line. It is about integrating the lessons and not simply doing and then moving on to the next chapter. Try to notice what you’re feeling and thinking as a new topic is introduced. Some days will be easy for you while others will challenge you and you may not even want to do what it asks of you. These lessons, the challenging ones, will transform you.
Since we’re talking about not rushing through the book, may I suggest something else regarding the timing? I would recommend that you not move on until you are ready. Just because dates change on a calendar based on time man has created, your soul and your heart may not be ready for the next thing. The soul and the heart are not attached to what we call days, weeks, months or years. They operate on a different time. They don’t like to be rushed or sometimes slowed down. Try to find your internal rhythm and see if you can follow it. Be prepared because it will drive your mind and ego crazy. But then again, you are starting with patience. Maybe this is a good time to start practicing it and including yourself in the Love Dare walk. I think Eve needs a little TLC since there’s no significant other right now. Don’t you?
Now it’s time for Merlot.