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Career

Cheers to trusting God and pursuing dreams

working mom, dream, careerI’ve been planning a career change for some time because Jonathon will be entering middle school in two years. This means limited options for daycare, namely, a teen center where the youth can hang out, do their homework, and get into mischief or be a latchkey kid. I may be pessimistic, but I don’t want that option for Jonathon. I want to be able to pick him up from school, take him to his extracurricular activities, and know exactly what he’s doing.

Working from home will give me the freedom to manage my work schedule, pursue my dream, and be creative. I’ve joined a community of other work-at-home moms and have been listening to a podcast about entrepreneurship and another one on how to live the life you want on my commute to work. I’m also building a community of women going through similar life stages in marriage, family, career, divorce, and health. So with that, here’s to a lifelong journey of inspiration, empowerment, and celebration. Cheers to 2015: a year of trusting God and of pursuing dreams!

Resources:

WAHM.com: an online resource for work-at-home moms

Entrepreneuronfire.com: a resource for entrepreneurs who want insights, tips, and resources along their journey

MissGuidedMom.com: an online resource for moms going through transitional stages in life like marriage, career, family, divorce, and health and wellness

Kate’s Take: an audio blog on how to live the life you want

Guiding lesson:

Eve, I am so happy you are pursuing your dreams.  You are showing your children the importance of caring for them and still making a difference by using your talents.  It’s never easy as a working mother.  So I would like to share Psalm 23 according to working moms.  Enjoy.

Love,
Grace

The Lord is my helper

I shall not control.
He makes me lie down my work for my children;
He leads me to find lost keys and toys.
He restores my sanity;
He guides me through homework that I can barely do
For His name’s sake.

Even though I try to balance career,
I fear no evil, for You are at my side;
Your wine and Your chocolate, they comfort me.
You prepare a table as I pick-up pizza for my hungry children;
You have blessed me with internet shopping;
My cart overflows.

Surely laundry, cooking and work will follow me all the days of my life,
Yet as a family we will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

Amen

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Career

How “In God We Trust” Became Healing in my Divorce

trust, theme for new year, working mom, career, life purpose, The theme that came to mind when I thought about 2015 was “Trust.” Trust that God will take care of every thing planned for the year. The vision appearing in my mind was God, in his awe-inspiring presence, extending his hand to reach for mine. I knew God would take care of me in ways I could not imagine.

Already he has given me an abundance of energy, persistence, and joy in fulfilling one New Year’s resolution—launching www.MissGuidedMom.com, the online magazine. Grace, you know where my passion is, what fulfills my hearts, and what ignites my soul. Inspiring, empowering, and celebrating women as we transition through life stages connect us in marriage, family, career, divorce, and health and wellness.

I have found in my own journey the benefits of being inspirational, empowering, and celebratory outweigh the repercussions of hatred, bitterness, and resentment. These negative sentiments can fill our spirits after divorce or unwelcomed obstacles. Life can throw sour situations our way, yet it’s how we react that brings sweeter occasions to celebrate and commemorate our challenges. So today, I celebrate the trust God showed me to turn my divorce into a healing blog so one day it could become an online resource to help other women.

Cheers! Salud! Salute!

Guiding Lesson:

Eve,

I’ll drink to that. What a great vision and call. This is not just a goal or something to achieve–it’s a vocation, an expression of self, of what’s inside that needs to come to life. The more you discover “who you are” and “whose you are,” you begin to do this.

You see I believe God’s call is to first see the image, likeness, and beauty of God within ourselves. We need to know we are the God’s beloved. God’s precious children, God’s very own heart. It is through this knowing that we can impact the world. It is through this understanding that we can raise others up. It is through this lens that we can see God’s image, likeness, and beauty in the other that we are called to serve. By living in this knowing, you become more gentle, humble, kind, patient, loving, etc. You are an instrument of peace.

If you remember, Jesus did not begin his ministry until he goes into the desert for 40 days where he was stripped of everything so he could be made new. After he comes out of the desert he is baptized, a symbol of new life. Since he emptied himself in the desert, he hears God’s voice: “This is my beloved son, whom I am well pleased.” Jesus is affirmed through these words and because he believes this, he sets out to do his Father’s will and transform the hearts of all.

One’s ability to believe these words is important in doing God’s will. It gives you strength to face challenges and objections when others question “who are you to being doing this?” It helps you realize that the work ahead of you is God’s not yours. You are God’s instrument. You are God’s hands and feet. Believing this allows God to be made visible through you. You make space for others to be touched by God through you.

I know that most people always talk about what is your purpose in life. There are many great books written on this topic which help you begin to ask questions and become more self-aware. Discovering more of yourself leads you to discovering more of God. For you see, your life is his story that has a message to communicate something special for all to experience healing, joy, and love.

However, the first call is what brought you into the world. It is Love, God’s love which is like a big bang – an explosion – an unending creation that can’t stop expressing himself through each and everyone. He didn’t make one flower, tree, animal, etc. He is a God of abundant love who wants to shower you with blessings. So before we start doing, we must be and sit at his feet knowing whom we are and whose we are to do his will.

The Martha and Mary story in the bible shows us this. Our call begins at the feet of Jesus and then leads us to the foot of the cross where we give of ourselves, in whatever role we are in, completely with arms wide open.

So your call is not what you do, but remembering who you are and whose you are. You begin to live your vocation with every interaction. This is your call. This is the call of anyone who wants to follow God. It’s not the title or position you hold. In fact you don’t need one to help transform the lives of women. It begins in how you live each day and the attitude by which you approach others through a smile or simply being present and looking into the eyes of everyone you meet.  

Your call begins as you wake up every morning and how appropriate that you start by looking in the mirror. Seeing God’s beloved reflected in you – messy hair, bad breath – you are God’s beloved – from here, you can do all things because God strengthens you.

So if you believe you are doing you’re life’s purpose (according to all the books and what people talk about), know that there is a bigger Call– the very first one – from the One who is smitten and completely in love with you. The One who calls you and waits for you to just give him a minute for him to love you, to fill you up, so he can touch his people through you.

When you think of God’s call in this way – you feel more free knowing you are doing it already. There is no grandiose title or label or place you need to impress others. God can place you anywhere he wants, doing whatever he wants you to do. The most important thing is the attitude you have as you approach each day and encounter each person. By remembering this, MissGuidedMom online magazine will reach the hearts of women that will inspire, empower, and celebrate women as they transition through life stages of marriage, family, career, divorce, and health and wellness.

May you bless many with your MissGuidedMom for you are truly guided by the author of life. 

Drink up,
Grace

Career

How Bringing Yourself to the Workplace can Yield Greater Success

Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?
Actually, who am I not to be?
I AM a CHILD of GOD.
My playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around me.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

This quote is one of my favorites and it reminds me to lean into the unknown and let go of fear, especially in my career. It calls me to be authentic and find my voice by being me and not trying to please my boss, colleagues or direct reports. So who am I when I step into the workplace? Do I recognize myself or do I check myself at the door and pick myself up on the way out? Do I believe that I have something to offer or do I play small so not to stand out? Am I my worst enemy in achieving greatness and creating a legacy that only I can do because of my unique talents and gifts?

courage, confidence, failure, career, single mom, working motherThese are questions that we need to face to emerge as truly successful and authentic women in whatever career we are in. What better time for you to step into your truth and let it shine in 2015. There is no better time than now to embrace being a woman in the workplace, wherever that may be – e.g. in schools, hospitals, policy academy, government, military, corporate America, Silicone Valley, aerospace, manufacturing, art galleries, music studios, entertainment, kitchens, homes, etc. All these roles deserve your full self, your authentic self, your promise to live fully alive and with confidence in who you are created to be.

You are so important and the message you are to communicate is lived out in whatever career you choose. Even if you are still searching for the right one, know that all the various jobs are dress rehearsals. As you try on various roles, your message is fine-tuned. Until one day the curtain will be pulled back and you will step onto the stage that has been waiting for you.

At November 2014th Indiana’s Governor’s Conference for Women, Caroline Dowd-Higgins, Director of Professional Enrichment, Indiana University Alumni Association and author of the book, “This is Not the Career I Ordered” shared three key things for career success – confidence, courage and failure – and wrote about this in the Huffington Post. Based on my professional experience in marketing, leadership development, executive coaching, spiritual formation and motherhood as well as the many interactions with women in various fields, these three components resonated with me and hope they will help you in your career. These three key things will also help integrate Marianne Williamson’s quote in your life and in your career. So let’s take a look at these areas. 

Confidence: Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, co-authored the best selling book, The Confidence Code, where they share the research they conducted among women and compared it to men. I was particular surprised how men’s confidence was not related to their competence in doing the job whereas women’s confidence was linked to their competency in performing the job. Men will take a risk into the unknown. Women on the other hand won’t entertain another job until they believe they can do.

Does this ring true for you? It is definitely something worth considering. Maybe just being aware of this will lead you in making a different decision when a new job becomes available. Maybe you go for it even though you may not have all the qualifications listed or required. You now know there are others interviewing for positions that don’t have all the requirements and feel confident they can do it, so why would you eliminate yourself before you ever interviewed?

Courage: Having more confidence will increase your courage in taking risks. I know personally when I believe in something, I have the courage to enter unknown territory that I would not otherwise. Confidence is like a railway that gives me great focus and direction to accomplish what I would have perceived impossible and scary. Courage rises with confidence and I don’t give fear or negative thoughts the opportunity to invade or destroy a path that I know needs to be paved to make a difference. Courage becomes my driving force. It has helped me make the impossible . . . possible and the make the invisible . . . visible. That’s the power that is within all of us as women.

Failure: Caroline Dowd-Higgins talks about how women have a tendency to suffer from analysis paralysis – thinking too much and not getting in the game and doing it. The thought of failure is more powerful than the actual failure itself. The idea in your mind becomes larger and emerges as anxiety, procrastination, illness, laziness, and unnecessary business. Think about it. What are you not doing for fear of failure? How are you unconsciously avoiding doing it? Failure is the greatest teacher and need not be avoided. It will lead you to lessons that only it can teach you. It can reveal things about yourself you didn’t know. It can unveil unexpected brilliance and magnificent within yourself. I have always told my son and myself that as long as we learn something, it is never a failure but a victory to something great yet to be discovered.

Failure is the secret sauce to success, to great character, to unyielding strength and perseverance. This is a gift that brings you back to wonder, wisdom, and humility ready to stand in awe and at a threshold of a new dawn. It leads you to a new step and redirects you when you have been on the wrong path. Get in the game and get ready to fail.

In summary, Paul Williams said, “I do not know how to do this but something inside me does.” That something is confidence, courage, and embracing failure. These three things lead you to being more authentic and bringing all of yourself to the workplace. It helps you become yourself in the world. And isn’t this your greatest legacy? No one else can be you and share the gifts that have only been given to you as you.   As Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself. Everyone else Is already taken.”

Women need real women showing what it means to be successful in our careers. Young women need role models to help them realize that their power is rooted in their authenticity. Showing them how to nurture and find their confidence and courage so that their failure leads to greatness. Let’s give them permission to shine brightly as they pass on this legacy to women who will follow them.

Family

7 tips to get back into school morning routines

As seen through the eyes of her mother, Serena Solorio shares why it’s important to plan ahead, schedule tasks, and set routines in the morning to get back into the swing of school weeks.

By Serena Solorio

school routine, back to basics, back to school, morning routine, working mom, childrenThe morning of the first day back to school isn’t always easy as you want to believe. You’re so used to the children’s winter break schedule that over those two weeks, you forget how to manage getting them to school on time. Not only that, the morning of school can always be stressful and anxiety-provoking. You don’t only have to get yourself ready for work, but also have to get your children ready, making sure they brushed their teeth the correct way, serving breakfast, and preparing lunches. If you have little ones, you’ll need to make sure the shoe is on the right foot and their winter coat is ready.

A working mom of three, Amy Ley-Sanchez, knows too well the importance of setting routines to limit stressful mornings. As division director of community-based services at Hillsides, a behavioral healthcare provider, Amy says, “Our internal clock – when to sleep, when to eat, and be active begins in utero. Infants and young children are dependent on their caregivers to help them regulate internally beginning with routines and predictability.”

Amy suggests the best environment for young children is one that is safe, predictable, and nurturing. “These are the building blocks for children to enter into school and eventually into adulthood.” Having a routine can help them learn self-control. Not only do they get healthy habits by brushing their teeth every morning, it can also help set their body clock faster.

To make life easier on yourself and for a successful morning, you can enlist the help of your children and prepare things the night before by implementing some of these time-saving and anxiety-reducing tips:

  • Get snacks in lunch bag. Whether they eat lunch at school or you make lunch, have an envelope of money ready or the bag of snacks. You can also make the sandwich right before you go to bed and put it in the fridge with all the other foods.
  • Wash, dry, and iron any necessary clothing. There’s no need to wake up early to put something to wash, dry or even iron. Plan the clothes for a week’s worth during the weekend so you don’t have to do laundry daily while other pressing activities call your attention.
  • Sign slips. Sign slips for school the night and save time in trying to find a pen in the car because your child forgot to give it to you the day before or while you were home.
  • Shower the night before. Showering the night before will save time and soothe you before bed. If you’re a person who wakes up feeling atrocious, then take a quick body shower in the morning that lasts no more than five minutes, as opposed to taking a 20-minute shower and having to dry your hair.
  • Find purse and car keys. Put your purse and car keys by the door to save time wondering where you put them in the morning rush. Have a key holder or a little basket by the door to create the habit of putting them in the container and never losing your keys.
  • Plan breakfast. Whether you give your kids money to have breakfast at school or you make them breakfast, set the bowls or plates and silverware the night before can save time also. If you make breakfast, have a breakfast plan to help with what to expect to make the next morning. If you are making a simple cereal or an omelet with fruits, being prepared with the ingredients you need the night before and knowing where everything is helps. Vanessa Barrios-DeGiacomo, who is a director of guidance and counseling at a community charter school based in Cambridge says, “Eating a well-balanced breakfast is important! Think of your body as a car. A car needs fuel to run, and your body needs food to give you the energy to make it through the day.” Making sure your kids eat breakfast every morning is important for how they perform at school.
  • Sleep to recover. Getting the eight hours of sleep you need is really important. Not only is it important for you but imagine how important it’s for your child who is growing and developing. Vanessa also explains, “Regardless if you are a working professional or a student planning to take a test the next day, make sure to schedule in at least eight hours of sleep. You’ll do much better and retain more information during the day if your mental state is good.”

The children can help prepare the night before, too. Here are a few ideas to help them establish habits for a lifetime:

  • Get clothes ready. The children can pick their outfit, starting from what shirt to wear and ending with socks. Doing this can teach children how to match clothes and dress themselves. And if they don’t match, it may not be an important battle to have with them.
  • Lather and rinse. Have children shower the night to limit the use of the bathroom to only the morning essentials—bathroom break, washing your face, teeth, and hands.
  • Set backpacks and shoes by door. Have backpacks and shoes ready to go by the door to save time doing a last-minute search for the other shoe or running to get your backpack from your room.

A planned morning the night before and setting routines, as Amy suggested for the household, will lift the stress off your shoulders. You’ll realize school mornings can be manageable, maybe even enjoyable, too.

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Serena Solorio, a college student, has a curious soul, when she isn’t glued to her computer she is reading books, or working, ready to explore the world and learn from her mistakes, she is anticipating on growing up and being on her own, while eating cookies with milk right before bed.