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How “In God We Trust” Became Healing in my Divorce

trust, theme for new year, working mom, career, life purpose, The theme that came to mind when I thought about 2015 was “Trust.” Trust that God will take care of every thing planned for the year. The vision appearing in my mind was God, in his awe-inspiring presence, extending his hand to reach for mine. I knew God would take care of me in ways I could not imagine.

Already he has given me an abundance of energy, persistence, and joy in fulfilling one New Year’s resolution—launching www.MissGuidedMom.com, the online magazine. Grace, you know where my passion is, what fulfills my hearts, and what ignites my soul. Inspiring, empowering, and celebrating women as we transition through life stages connect us in marriage, family, career, divorce, and health and wellness.

I have found in my own journey the benefits of being inspirational, empowering, and celebratory outweigh the repercussions of hatred, bitterness, and resentment. These negative sentiments can fill our spirits after divorce or unwelcomed obstacles. Life can throw sour situations our way, yet it’s how we react that brings sweeter occasions to celebrate and commemorate our challenges. So today, I celebrate the trust God showed me to turn my divorce into a healing blog so one day it could become an online resource to help other women.

Cheers! Salud! Salute!

Guiding Lesson:

Eve,

I’ll drink to that. What a great vision and call. This is not just a goal or something to achieve–it’s a vocation, an expression of self, of what’s inside that needs to come to life. The more you discover “who you are” and “whose you are,” you begin to do this.

You see I believe God’s call is to first see the image, likeness, and beauty of God within ourselves. We need to know we are the God’s beloved. God’s precious children, God’s very own heart. It is through this knowing that we can impact the world. It is through this understanding that we can raise others up. It is through this lens that we can see God’s image, likeness, and beauty in the other that we are called to serve. By living in this knowing, you become more gentle, humble, kind, patient, loving, etc. You are an instrument of peace.

If you remember, Jesus did not begin his ministry until he goes into the desert for 40 days where he was stripped of everything so he could be made new. After he comes out of the desert he is baptized, a symbol of new life. Since he emptied himself in the desert, he hears God’s voice: “This is my beloved son, whom I am well pleased.” Jesus is affirmed through these words and because he believes this, he sets out to do his Father’s will and transform the hearts of all.

One’s ability to believe these words is important in doing God’s will. It gives you strength to face challenges and objections when others question “who are you to being doing this?” It helps you realize that the work ahead of you is God’s not yours. You are God’s instrument. You are God’s hands and feet. Believing this allows God to be made visible through you. You make space for others to be touched by God through you.

I know that most people always talk about what is your purpose in life. There are many great books written on this topic which help you begin to ask questions and become more self-aware. Discovering more of yourself leads you to discovering more of God. For you see, your life is his story that has a message to communicate something special for all to experience healing, joy, and love.

However, the first call is what brought you into the world. It is Love, God’s love which is like a big bang – an explosion – an unending creation that can’t stop expressing himself through each and everyone. He didn’t make one flower, tree, animal, etc. He is a God of abundant love who wants to shower you with blessings. So before we start doing, we must be and sit at his feet knowing whom we are and whose we are to do his will.

The Martha and Mary story in the bible shows us this. Our call begins at the feet of Jesus and then leads us to the foot of the cross where we give of ourselves, in whatever role we are in, completely with arms wide open.

So your call is not what you do, but remembering who you are and whose you are. You begin to live your vocation with every interaction. This is your call. This is the call of anyone who wants to follow God. It’s not the title or position you hold. In fact you don’t need one to help transform the lives of women. It begins in how you live each day and the attitude by which you approach others through a smile or simply being present and looking into the eyes of everyone you meet.  

Your call begins as you wake up every morning and how appropriate that you start by looking in the mirror. Seeing God’s beloved reflected in you – messy hair, bad breath – you are God’s beloved – from here, you can do all things because God strengthens you.

So if you believe you are doing you’re life’s purpose (according to all the books and what people talk about), know that there is a bigger Call– the very first one – from the One who is smitten and completely in love with you. The One who calls you and waits for you to just give him a minute for him to love you, to fill you up, so he can touch his people through you.

When you think of God’s call in this way – you feel more free knowing you are doing it already. There is no grandiose title or label or place you need to impress others. God can place you anywhere he wants, doing whatever he wants you to do. The most important thing is the attitude you have as you approach each day and encounter each person. By remembering this, MissGuidedMom online magazine will reach the hearts of women that will inspire, empower, and celebrate women as they transition through life stages of marriage, family, career, divorce, and health and wellness.

May you bless many with your MissGuidedMom for you are truly guided by the author of life. 

Drink up,
Grace

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After 12 years of marriage, Eve thought she had finally achieved the American dream with her husband, Adam. Investing in Adam’s career, she was the breadwinner, supporting him through medical school and residency program to become board certified. The real estate market was in their favor, allowing them to purchase an amazing home for themselves and their two children in a supportive community. Once he became employed as a physician, Adam found himself working long hours, coming home late and feeling exhausted by the day’s end. One day, Eve was perusing his social networking page, when she found Adam’s flirtatious  comments, segueing into Eve becoming her personal detective. After uncovering the reality behind Adam’s late night shifts and exhaustion, Eve makes the difficult choice of leaving her American dream and “liquidating her investment” by walking a different path. Newly divorced, Eve becomes a little misguided while on a journey of self-discovery. But with the help of her guardian angel, Eve untangles herself from delicate situations as a newfound bachelorette, a mom, a divorcee and a professional publicist. In a serendipitous quest to learn life lessons, Eve welcomes spiritual recovery, rest and restoration.

Follow our blog to learn more about Eve’s journey.

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Beginning of Advent: How waiting unfolds God’s perfect plans

When I first scheduled a MissguidedMom retreat at the Immaculate Heart Community Center for Spiritual Renewal in Montecito, California I didn’t give much thought to the time—Thanksgiving weekend. How blessed I am to give thanks for all the gifts God has shown me and to celebrate the Advent among other women and a community whose desire to serve God is well demonstrated. This year is the first time I have discovered the meaning of Advent. Not once in my childhood or young adult life did I give much importance to this treasured time. Today, I will teach it to my sons so they may wait with great anticipation for the birth of Jesus Christ, when he appears in the manger to bring hope.

In my contemplation I have received hope, faith, and trust. Hope is the thread that is in me while I walk this journey with God. Through faith God will provide for all my needs and desires of the heart. Trust that God’s plans will unfold on his time. These three gifts I pass on to you during this time and all year long.

May the waiting of Jesus Christ be a contemplative journey of hope, faith, and trust in God’s will to be served in years to come.

hope, God, faith, trust, darkness, transformation, Christian, mom, divorced, Grace, guardian angelGuiding Lesson:

Happy Advent, Eve!

A time of waiting, a time of longing, and a time of great hope is here again. The world is waiting to see a great light, to experience great peace, and encounter great love. This happens year after year so that we may remember the beauty of longing and expectation. Your gifts of hope, faith, and trust are priceless and thank you for sharing.

As you know, our hope in God alone comes from our great faith and trust in him. We know he is the only one to illuminate our darkness, turn our tears into dancing, and transform our sadness into joy. As Isiah 9:1-2 says:

“The people who walked in darkness
have seen a great light;
Upon those who lived in a land of gloom
a light has shone.
You have brought them abundant joy
and great rejoicing.”

How much do we all need this? Yes, even angels need to hear this so we can renew our hope and strength. If you only focus on the events that have happened this year in the world, hope, faith, and trust seem to have disappeared. It is time to pause and wait on the Lord and I will wait with you.

But how does this waiting bring about more hope, faith, and trust? Eve, when you stop and be still, feeling your longing and expectation for something in your life, you enter into possibilities. You begin to imagine and dream again. This time creates a sacred space where a light begins to breakthrough any darkness and radiate hope. You are able to look into this space from the outside world that may be cold and harsh. When you do this, you find in any difficult time, hope, faith, and trust are buried in your heart and soul. Being still helps you surrender to God’s time and discover these gifts once again.

However, there is a secret in this time of waiting and this time of longing. We believe we are the only ones hoping, trusting, and having faith. There is something more incredible happening. If you begin to enter this time of possibilities, you will realize that you are uniting in God’s great longing for you. He is the one hoping you will stop and allow him into your daily life. He is the one with great faith that you will rely on him as your God. He is the one who is trusting that you will participate in his will to bring light, love, and joy into the world so he can touch others through you. He is the one waiting on you. This is a perfect place to end with a poem titled: “For Longing” by John O’Donohue. Enjoy and happy longing.

Grace

Blessed be the longing that brought you here
And quickens your soul with wonder.

May you have the courage to listen to the voice of desire
That disturbs you when you have settled for something safe.

May you have the wisdom to enter generously into your own unease
To discover the new direction your longing wants you to take.

May the forms of your belonging–in love, creativity, and friendship–
Be equal to the grandeur and the call of your soul.

May the one you long for long for you.

May your dreams gradually reveal the destination of your desire.

May a secret Providence guide your thought and nurture your feeling.

May your mind inhabit your life with the sureness with which
your body inhabits the world.

May your heart never be haunted by ghost-structures of old damage.

May you come to accept your longing as divine urgency.

May you know the urgency with which God longs for you.

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On Being a Mother: Expanding My Heart-Part III

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Expanding our hearts to receive more of his love for us through our children – How has God expanded our hearts?  One thing I’ve always acknowledged is that children have been and are God’s greatest gifts.  I learned about a love I never knew existed and it has caused me to love God’s people in a new way.  As I continue to observe other mothers, I recognize that their children helped them see the beauty in the world and in themselves as if for the first time.  They help mothers feel God’s unconditional love and forgiveness as they grow up and as we grow as mothers and guardian angels.  This is what expands my heart.

I remember a story that one mother told Eve’s mother.  She said that her son’s friend dared another friend to punch her son.  He was hurt and she was told about the incident.  One of her rules is that if her son does something like this, she has him call the friend to apologize and make amends.  If he is hurt, they need to figure out how to restore the relationship.  In this situation, he called and spoke to both of his friends.  After the phone conversation, she asked how he felt about the situation and his friends.  He responded by saying, “I feel fine mom.  I wasn’t angry at them.  I was angry at the choices they made.”  In that moment, God showed her the incredible love He has for her.  He may not like or approve of the choices we make, but He always loves us.

Our children truly are the greatest blessings and being their mother and guardian angel is our greatest joy in heaven and on earth.

So I continue to completely trust, surrender to the moment, and allow God to expand my heart so I can receive more of his love for me through Eve.  And as Mother Mary taught me to say:  Let it be done to me according to thy word.  What more is there to say to show our gratitude to God for these wonderful children? 

A CHILD’S POEM TO HER MOTHER

Mother I hear you
I wonder what you look like
I wait to be held by you

Mother I’m here
I’m in the comfort of your arms
I rest and know I am home

Mother, You are here
You nurture me as I grow
You never leave my side

Mother You are near
You teach me lessons with great love
You believe when I can not

Mother, You are dear
Blessing me with what you do
Blessing me with who you are, my mother.

Read On Being a Mother: Part I and Part II