Category: Career


Cheers to trusting God and pursuing dreams

working mom, dream, careerI’ve been planning a career change for some time because Jonathon will be entering middle school in two years. This means limited options for daycare, namely, a teen center where the youth can hang out, do their homework, and get into mischief or be a latchkey kid. I may be pessimistic, but I don’t want that option for Jonathon. I want to be able to pick him up from school, take him to his extracurricular activities, and know exactly what he’s doing.

Working from home will give me the freedom to manage my work schedule, pursue my dream, and be creative. I’ve joined a community of other work-at-home moms and have been listening to a podcast about entrepreneurship and another one on how to live the life you want on my commute to work. I’m also building a community of women going through similar life stages in marriage, family, career, divorce, and health. So with that, here’s to a lifelong journey of inspiration, empowerment, and celebration. Cheers to 2015: a year of trusting God and of pursuing dreams!

Resources: an online resource for work-at-home moms a resource for entrepreneurs who want insights, tips, and resources along their journey an online resource for moms going through transitional stages in life like marriage, career, family, divorce, and health and wellness

Kate’s Take: an audio blog on how to live the life you want

Guiding lesson:

Eve, I am so happy you are pursuing your dreams.  You are showing your children the importance of caring for them and still making a difference by using your talents.  It’s never easy as a working mother.  So I would like to share Psalm 23 according to working moms.  Enjoy.


The Lord is my helper

I shall not control.
He makes me lie down my work for my children;
He leads me to find lost keys and toys.
He restores my sanity;
He guides me through homework that I can barely do
For His name’s sake.

Even though I try to balance career,
I fear no evil, for You are at my side;
Your wine and Your chocolate, they comfort me.
You prepare a table as I pick-up pizza for my hungry children;
You have blessed me with internet shopping;
My cart overflows.

Surely laundry, cooking and work will follow me all the days of my life,
Yet as a family we will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.


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How “In God We Trust” Became Healing in my Divorce

trust, theme for new year, working mom, career, life purpose, The theme that came to mind when I thought about 2015 was “Trust.” Trust that God will take care of every thing planned for the year. The vision appearing in my mind was God, in his awe-inspiring presence, extending his hand to reach for mine. I knew God would take care of me in ways I could not imagine.

Already he has given me an abundance of energy, persistence, and joy in fulfilling one New Year’s resolution—launching, the online magazine. Grace, you know where my passion is, what fulfills my hearts, and what ignites my soul. Inspiring, empowering, and celebrating women as we transition through life stages connect us in marriage, family, career, divorce, and health and wellness.

I have found in my own journey the benefits of being inspirational, empowering, and celebratory outweigh the repercussions of hatred, bitterness, and resentment. These negative sentiments can fill our spirits after divorce or unwelcomed obstacles. Life can throw sour situations our way, yet it’s how we react that brings sweeter occasions to celebrate and commemorate our challenges. So today, I celebrate the trust God showed me to turn my divorce into a healing blog so one day it could become an online resource to help other women.

Cheers! Salud! Salute!

Guiding Lesson:


I’ll drink to that. What a great vision and call. This is not just a goal or something to achieve–it’s a vocation, an expression of self, of what’s inside that needs to come to life. The more you discover “who you are” and “whose you are,” you begin to do this.

You see I believe God’s call is to first see the image, likeness, and beauty of God within ourselves. We need to know we are the God’s beloved. God’s precious children, God’s very own heart. It is through this knowing that we can impact the world. It is through this understanding that we can raise others up. It is through this lens that we can see God’s image, likeness, and beauty in the other that we are called to serve. By living in this knowing, you become more gentle, humble, kind, patient, loving, etc. You are an instrument of peace.

If you remember, Jesus did not begin his ministry until he goes into the desert for 40 days where he was stripped of everything so he could be made new. After he comes out of the desert he is baptized, a symbol of new life. Since he emptied himself in the desert, he hears God’s voice: “This is my beloved son, whom I am well pleased.” Jesus is affirmed through these words and because he believes this, he sets out to do his Father’s will and transform the hearts of all.

One’s ability to believe these words is important in doing God’s will. It gives you strength to face challenges and objections when others question “who are you to being doing this?” It helps you realize that the work ahead of you is God’s not yours. You are God’s instrument. You are God’s hands and feet. Believing this allows God to be made visible through you. You make space for others to be touched by God through you.

I know that most people always talk about what is your purpose in life. There are many great books written on this topic which help you begin to ask questions and become more self-aware. Discovering more of yourself leads you to discovering more of God. For you see, your life is his story that has a message to communicate something special for all to experience healing, joy, and love.

However, the first call is what brought you into the world. It is Love, God’s love which is like a big bang – an explosion – an unending creation that can’t stop expressing himself through each and everyone. He didn’t make one flower, tree, animal, etc. He is a God of abundant love who wants to shower you with blessings. So before we start doing, we must be and sit at his feet knowing whom we are and whose we are to do his will.

The Martha and Mary story in the bible shows us this. Our call begins at the feet of Jesus and then leads us to the foot of the cross where we give of ourselves, in whatever role we are in, completely with arms wide open.

So your call is not what you do, but remembering who you are and whose you are. You begin to live your vocation with every interaction. This is your call. This is the call of anyone who wants to follow God. It’s not the title or position you hold. In fact you don’t need one to help transform the lives of women. It begins in how you live each day and the attitude by which you approach others through a smile or simply being present and looking into the eyes of everyone you meet.  

Your call begins as you wake up every morning and how appropriate that you start by looking in the mirror. Seeing God’s beloved reflected in you – messy hair, bad breath – you are God’s beloved – from here, you can do all things because God strengthens you.

So if you believe you are doing you’re life’s purpose (according to all the books and what people talk about), know that there is a bigger Call– the very first one – from the One who is smitten and completely in love with you. The One who calls you and waits for you to just give him a minute for him to love you, to fill you up, so he can touch his people through you.

When you think of God’s call in this way – you feel more free knowing you are doing it already. There is no grandiose title or label or place you need to impress others. God can place you anywhere he wants, doing whatever he wants you to do. The most important thing is the attitude you have as you approach each day and encounter each person. By remembering this, MissGuidedMom online magazine will reach the hearts of women that will inspire, empower, and celebrate women as they transition through life stages of marriage, family, career, divorce, and health and wellness.

May you bless many with your MissGuidedMom for you are truly guided by the author of life. 

Drink up,


Second week of Advent: How to Prepare for a Fearless Journey with God

Faithful, journey, God, grace, Lord, working momWhile the first week of Advent called on us to watch and be alert for the coming of Jesus Christ, the second week asked us to be prepare for the way of the Lord. The Advent season reminds me of my journey with God. Although it began before I was born, in the past 25 years I have had a profound calling by God to be ready. I have known that he has chosen me to do his will in a way that requires a great responsibility–one that I have feared.

I have watched, and at times, tried to shun the prompting of the spirit within me. Although I’ve tried to extinguish the flame, the spark has ignited at different stages of my life. In the past five years, I have been alert as is asked of us in the first week of advent.

Today, I know that God has prepared me in my journey to come home to him. I am paving the way for not just myself, but for others to be witness to God’s love. Whether we get divorced, find ourselves depressed, see no end to a thankless job, or searching for love, there is hope in God. We must be faithful in our journey by watching, being alert, and preparing the way for the Lord. He is there with open arms, ready to take us in his embrace and welcome us home.

I fear no more and am ready for what God has asked of me.

Guiding Lesson:

God, silence, grace, spiritualityEve, how does one prepare?  What does it mean in the spiritual life to get ready?  How will you know if you are ready?

Let’s make a comparison.  If you were to find out that someone special is coming over, what would you do?  You would probably begin cleaning, cooking, and getting things in order.  By doing this, you will be able to focus on the visit, wanting your guest to relax in the environment you worked hard to clean just for them.

Well, for the spiritual life, getting ready means looking at your internal and external life.  This requires you to sit in quiet, to reflect, and determine what changes you would like to make to live more congruently (internally and externally).  This takes time and commitment.  It also takes great humility and gentleness.  This is not about being judgmental or critical of yourself.  It is about coming back to who you are in the eyes of God . . . and that is simply his beloved daughter.  From his lens, you will begin to see obstacles, detours, and potholes that have steered you away from your identity and from your relationship with God.  It wakes you up to the decisions you made that did not draw you closer to him, who is so deserving of your love above all things.

If you look at the angel Gabriel’s greeting . . . “Hail, favored one! The Lord is with you.”  To be God’s favored one, to have the Lord with her, she must have sat in quiet, been reflective and become aware of the life she was choosing and called to live.  Based on this greeting, she was filled with grace.  Her being was connected to God like no other human could or will ever be in order to have received Jesus in her womb.  She could not have received Jesus, the perfect Lamb of God, without preparation . . . she just didn’t know that she was working with God every time she entered into this state.

This is offered to all of us.  We receive more of God in the silence.  This is what we are ultimately called to and then we can listen for the second calling on how God will ask us to share Jesus in the world.  Mary was chosen to do this as his mother.  You may be asked to do it as a writer, an artist, a mother to your children, a wife, etc.  Don’t rush or focus on the second calling without hearing and bathing in the first.  Otherwise, you may be rushing down the wrong aisle, accepting the wrong job, making decisions for the wrong reasons.  And, then I must add, that even if you do say “yes” to the wrong thing, God uses everything and creates with you knowing you had the right intention just a little low on stillness and patience.  Remember, waiting on God is part of the preparation where clarity happens.

So here is something you can do every day to prepare and not just wait for Advent.  It’s called the Daily Examen that St. Ignatius of Loyola developed to help you become self-aware and open yourself up to be ready to say “Yes” to God.

This is done every night before you go to bed.

  1. Stillness – Recalling God’s Presence
  2. Gratitude – Express Thankfulness
  3. Reflection – Looking back on Your Day
  4. Sorrow – Asking for Forgiveness
  5. Hopefulness – Resolve to Grow

You can read more about this at and look up “Prayfully Reviewing Your Day”  (The Daily Examen).

As the night draws near, it is time for me to review my day and become more filled with grace.



Beginning of Advent: How waiting unfolds God’s perfect plans

When I first scheduled a MissguidedMom retreat at the Immaculate Heart Community Center for Spiritual Renewal in Montecito, California I didn’t give much thought to the time—Thanksgiving weekend. How blessed I am to give thanks for all the gifts God has shown me and to celebrate the Advent among other women and a community whose desire to serve God is well demonstrated. This year is the first time I have discovered the meaning of Advent. Not once in my childhood or young adult life did I give much importance to this treasured time. Today, I will teach it to my sons so they may wait with great anticipation for the birth of Jesus Christ, when he appears in the manger to bring hope.

In my contemplation I have received hope, faith, and trust. Hope is the thread that is in me while I walk this journey with God. Through faith God will provide for all my needs and desires of the heart. Trust that God’s plans will unfold on his time. These three gifts I pass on to you during this time and all year long.

May the waiting of Jesus Christ be a contemplative journey of hope, faith, and trust in God’s will to be served in years to come.

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Happy Advent, Eve!

A time of waiting, a time of longing, and a time of great hope is here again. The world is waiting to see a great light, to experience great peace, and encounter great love. This happens year after year so that we may remember the beauty of longing and expectation. Your gifts of hope, faith, and trust are priceless and thank you for sharing.

As you know, our hope in God alone comes from our great faith and trust in him. We know he is the only one to illuminate our darkness, turn our tears into dancing, and transform our sadness into joy. As Isiah 9:1-2 says:

“The people who walked in darkness
have seen a great light;
Upon those who lived in a land of gloom
a light has shone.
You have brought them abundant joy
and great rejoicing.”

How much do we all need this? Yes, even angels need to hear this so we can renew our hope and strength. If you only focus on the events that have happened this year in the world, hope, faith, and trust seem to have disappeared. It is time to pause and wait on the Lord and I will wait with you.

But how does this waiting bring about more hope, faith, and trust? Eve, when you stop and be still, feeling your longing and expectation for something in your life, you enter into possibilities. You begin to imagine and dream again. This time creates a sacred space where a light begins to breakthrough any darkness and radiate hope. You are able to look into this space from the outside world that may be cold and harsh. When you do this, you find in any difficult time, hope, faith, and trust are buried in your heart and soul. Being still helps you surrender to God’s time and discover these gifts once again.

However, there is a secret in this time of waiting and this time of longing. We believe we are the only ones hoping, trusting, and having faith. There is something more incredible happening. If you begin to enter this time of possibilities, you will realize that you are uniting in God’s great longing for you. He is the one hoping you will stop and allow him into your daily life. He is the one with great faith that you will rely on him as your God. He is the one who is trusting that you will participate in his will to bring light, love, and joy into the world so he can touch others through you. He is the one waiting on you. This is a perfect place to end with a poem titled: “For Longing” by John O’Donohue. Enjoy and happy longing.


Blessed be the longing that brought you here
And quickens your soul with wonder.

May you have the courage to listen to the voice of desire
That disturbs you when you have settled for something safe.

May you have the wisdom to enter generously into your own unease
To discover the new direction your longing wants you to take.

May the forms of your belonging–in love, creativity, and friendship–
Be equal to the grandeur and the call of your soul.

May the one you long for long for you.

May your dreams gradually reveal the destination of your desire.

May a secret Providence guide your thought and nurture your feeling.

May your mind inhabit your life with the sureness with which
your body inhabits the world.

May your heart never be haunted by ghost-structures of old damage.

May you come to accept your longing as divine urgency.

May you know the urgency with which God longs for you.