Adam agreed to sell the house. He decided to move into a small apartment after the house is sold until he could buy another one that suits his needs. Delighted with his decision, I quickly called our realtor and arranged to have our house listed for sale. Another weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
Joint financial situations can cause headaches unless you act quickly to reduce them. Here are a few things I did immediately:
- Changed passwords to important accounts
- Terminated joint access to my checking account
- Obtained and reviewed my credit report
- Listed joint assets
- Negotiated division of property and assets
Now, I’ll just wait and see how the sale of our house will do during this real estate climate.
Eve, joint financial matters can weigh you down and cause bitterness and frustration. It’s the area that some will use as a means of power, control and even revenge–doesn’t sound like any fun at all.
Now, as I listen to the steps you’re taking, it appears you are focused in getting things done without any unnecessary drama. I commend you for seeing and having the right focus. It’s about unraveling the past, untying the knot and making a final withdrawal. Those who are so caught up in the power struggle don’t realize that there are no winners, only wounded soldiers. I refer to them as soldiers because it becomes a battlefield where blood, sweat and tears are shed.
Eve, I toast to you for staying present to what’s important and acting with grace. Here is my rendition of Jesus’ Beatitudes from the Gospel of Matthew 5:3-12(known as blessings) for all those that find themselves dealing with financial frustrations when getting divorced.
Read Pearls of Grace to learn more about Grace’s pearls of wisdom