I’m grateful for the special occasions in my life like birthdays! It’s David’s birthday and he’s turning five years old. Oh, what joy it is for me to bake cupcakes and take them to his school. With so many preoccupations of divorce and work, I’m so happy to be baking and shopping for goodie bags and treats for the children in his classroom.
Although he wants Batman as his theme, he’s picked out the cupcakes he wants for girls, pink cupcakes with Peeps pink bunnies, and for the boys, he wants the brown cupcakes with chocolate icing and Peeps yellow bunnies on top. I think he’s so funny.
I can’t wait to for tomorrow night to bake while I sip Merlot and taste test the cupcakes. 😉 I’m glad for the downtown, all while doing something that will be memorable for David. He has also asked me to take him home after they celebrate his birthday at school. He told me all the other mothers take his friends home on their birthdays and he wants me to do the same. I’m definitely taking the day off to celebrate his birthday. He only turns five once. =)
Guiding Lesson: Eve, I can’t think of a better way to get your mind off of the divorce than baking cupcakes for your son and sipping Merlot. I might have to join you.
I guess you have found out that one can not be focused on the divorce 24 hours a day. Like any situation that is not pleasant and has potential to induce a great deal of stress, one needs to reengage with the rest of life. Life is much more than the one event. It is made up of many. So while your head may be spinning trying to work through the divorce, your children are the perfect reminder that the little things in life have the capacity to bring about much joy. And what is more urgent than picking out the right theme and types of cupcakes for one’s birthday?
I know I have said it before and it is worth saying it again. Children are an incredible blessing. They have so much love for life and are entrenched in the moment. They don’t dwell on what happened yesterday because it will get in the way of discovering, playing and laughing right now.
As you prepare for David’s birthday and take the day off to be with him, remember that this is possible because of Adam. Both of you are responsible for David’s and Jonathan’s birth. So when you resume your focus on the divorce, let the love you have for your children be the guiding light you need to respond and make the best decisions for all.