While the microwaved MacBook is out of commission, I’m trying to do the preparatory work I need to complete for my new client. I’m still shocked at what has happened and will not ever tell my client that my soon-to-be-ex has microwaved my laptop, which is why I can’t get them the comps they need. I interview, write, search for photos, get approval on copy and photographs and accomplish as much as I can within my means.
Grace, I never realized just how much I depended on my MacBook—for everything, to stay connected, for my livelihood, for my creative flow, for the feeling of independence. For an instance, I feel like Adam took all of that away from me. In destroying my MacBook, he destroyed part of who I am, my spirit, my dreams, my ambitions.
Then, I realized, Adam gave them back to me—a desire to pursue all of what I want regardless of the trials and tribulations. He gave me a reason to fight for what I want. He tried to melt away everything that meant a great deal to me, to destroy a material object, but he couldn’t take away what was in my mind, my heart, my soul. No one can take any of those things away, unless you let them. And I refuse to let Adam or anyone else take away my spirit, my dreams, my ambitions.
Guiding Lesson: Eve, I admire your ability to take a situation that could destroy you and change your focus to see that you can rise from the ashes to new life. This is remarkable. It is a gift you are giving yourself and your children.
Life is filled with many uncontrollable and unexpected events that can crush you. The question is not why these things occur but how will your respond and be the good in a world it so desperately needs. Even in your imperfection, God can work through you to be the message of goodness. His spirit will breathe the gifts of peace, compassion, and forgiveness that will guide your actions. This does not mean you need to be a doormat. In fact, the opposite is true. You need to be strong and courageous to trust God in your life.
Mother Theresa once said, “People may be irrational, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway.” This is what makes the world a wonderful place to live. Life is the greatest adventure even when it is not all good. There is no script but the one you choose to write. The problems of the world, though many, remind us that God is only good. “The choice for this all-good God allows us, ironically, to deal victoriously with non-goodness.” (Richard Rohr)
Eve, you did good because God is good who lives in you. You have made him a part of your story instead of allowing others to create you story. Now it’s time for a new chapter. What will you write?