Mother’s Day is around the corner and on this special day I think about my children and how difficult it can be for single moms. I used to enjoy a Mother’s Day breakfast or brunch with my family and then some much-needed Mommy time alone. Adam used to give me that along with a special gift from the boys. Today, my boys keep talking about getting me daisies for Mother’s Day and who knows what Adam’s role is in fulfilling their wishes. I want to make sure they feel that they’ve been heard and seen. So I thought of a few things I can do with my boys as a single mom:
- Have them pick out flowers for a table centerpiece. Killing two birds with one stone: having them feel like they are buying me daisies and having a nice centerpiece for Mother’s Day meals.
- Prepare and cook a special meal together. They enjoy helping out, feeling like they did something to make a meal and set the table.
- Go to church. Attending church gives me a chance to be in the presence of God and be grateful for so many things including time with my children. There will come a time when they will be older and won’t want to spend time with their parents. I should cherish the time I have and hold on to their hugs.
- Plan a play date with other single moms. As much as I enjoyed some special alone time, I know it is challenging on days like Mother’s Day. I figure planning a day with my other friends, who are in the same situation, makes it enjoyable for our children and us.
- Plan a movie date night. Who doesn’t want to sit around the living room to watch a movie, munching on Red Vines and eating Popcornopolis? I do! I know my boys would truly enjoy this time as well.
Eve, what a great idea to include your sons in making your Mother’s Day special. They are the reason you get to celebrate so enjoy this day together. You deserve it!
Your plan has so much potential to impact your sons as well as the women in years to come. You are teaching them to respect their mother by spending time together, being thoughtful and celebrating the most important woman in their life.
These moments can echo healing into the future. They have the power to create a vibration of love that is felt for years to come. It is true that what you do today will be the bridge that you use to cross into tomorrow. This is the power of being a mother. By giving them opportunities to practice this instead of lecturing them will pave the way for how they will treat their future relationships.
When parents don’t take time to plan events like you are, the outcome will produce great struggle. Women and men will get infected by one of the most deadly viruses. This has been around since individuals have fallen in love. It is called a broken heart. This, if not treated, cultivates bitterness, jealousy, resentment, revenge, etc and spreads to everyone that is caught in the eye of the storm and leaves lots of casualties.
As a mother, please continue to nurture and take advantage of these moments. It is a great legacy to raise individuals who can build a relationship founded on mutual trust, respect, love, commitment and passion for one another. You’re teaching them to write music, the song of the heart that brings about greater love, forgiveness and healing in the world. And if a relationship doesn’t work out, they can still end it gracefully where healing can begin and can be completed so more love can be realized.
Did you realize the magnitude that you can have as a mother? So remember the sum total of every moment casts a shadow that stretches beyond the horizon to plant seeds of hope for the next generation.
I would like to leave you with a Mother’s Day blessing.
I hear you
I wonder what you look like
I wait to be held by you
I’m in the comfort of your arms
I rest and know I am home
You are here
You nurture me as I grow
You never leave my side
You are near
You teach me lessons with great love
You believe when I can not
Blessings and cheer
Blessings for what you do
Blessings for who you are
Love draws near
Love awaits to hold you gently
Love celebrates your beauty as… My Mother