Grace, I’m so fortunate to have my job right now. Not just because of the way the economy has been doing, my job has allowed me to escape what is happening at home. Leaving the home during the day and getting away releases the stress of divorce and details of the process.
Fortunately for me, I have a colleague who is also a dear friend, and she understands what I am going through. I’m glad there is someone at work who knows what is happening at home. She has compassion for all involved, including Adam. Although she has asked me numerous times if divorce is what I really want, I believe she wants me to truly think every decision through before I make it.
For now, I am delving into every account I manage. I have taken the additional responsibility of training other colleagues in social media, a way to avoid having any idle time to think about Adam.
Guiding Lesson: Eve, going through a divorce can drain you spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. It has tremendous power and can hold your mind, heart and soul hostage if you let it. There are no negotiations that will release you quickly. You can try to speed it up but won’t get far until the wounds are tended to.
I like your decision in trying to stay grounded. It is very important and will help you feel some sense of normalcy in this unplanned event in your life. I don’t believe one ever plans to grow up and get divorced, but when it happens one can plan to choose how they will handle it to get to the other side. And yes, there is an end to this chaotic time. In time you will find yourself in a place of joy. But for now, do what you can to focus on what you do have like your work. Maximize the blessings in your life and know there are more to come if you keep your mind, heart and gut open to the Divine Healer.
Eve, I promise you the pain and wounds of divorce will not have the final say. Love will come and release you as you continue to heal. The Divine Healer has already started treating you. In time Love will have the final say and will show you the way to new life. Pinky promise.