Grace you asked me “If you give anything less or choose to live opposed to who you are, then who are you really or who are you trying to become?” I think before one marries or get into a relationship, one has to be honest with oneself. One has to ask oneself, “Who am I? Where do I want to go? What do I want out of life? Who and what characteristics am I looking for in a partner?” These questions, for me, come down to being honest with oneself.
Honesty is an admirable characteristic that we don’t find genuinely in people. I think we are afraid of being true to ourselves for fear of what others will think. I think many people don’t realize that they are so similar to one another and want the basics in life. We are so connected to each other and many times we need to simply express ourselves authentically and honestly as possible. When we can determine who we are, when we can answer where we want to go, when we know what we want out of life, when we know who and what characteristics we are looking for, we take critical steps to being honest with the reality of where we stand in that very moment in life.
Reality for oneself is skewed by one’s own perception relative to one’s experience. To be honest with oneself about one’s reality, we need to determine the facts, what happened and what is, versus the meaning behind our facts or the how did it make me feel.
I’m looking forward to taking this time to be introspective about my own reality and feelings. I’m going to be asking myself what are the facts, what simply happened versus how did it make me feel. And when I can isolate the two, then I know I can begin to honestly look at myself and better myself mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically. I think this reflection deserves a cupcake. =)
Guiding Lesson: Eve, why not? Enjoy that cupcake. As long as you are being honest with yourself that the cupcake is not going to help melt the pounds away nor will it lead you to your inner truth as it makes it way down your digestive system.
Honesty. What does it mean to be truthful with yourself? From whose perspective is truth really seen or known? These are all good questions. Not very easy to answer since society around you can rationalize almost everything they do and believe in as long as it allows them to continue living their current reality.
You are right to start by looking at the facts and not judging them. You may also consider that if you only look at the external facts without taking into account your feelings, will you get to the whole truth? Just focusing on this will keep you in your head while you exile you heart. To get to the heart of the matter, you need to also look at your internal world and notice what is stirring within you. Are there movements of joy, peace or are you experiencing anxiety and fear?
All feelings are an invitation to a greater awareness of yourself and your situation. It doesn’t mean you lead with them the same way you would not just lead with your head. Both play an important part and are necessary. For example, if you were in a forest and you ran into a bear, just looking at the facts will not help you. However, both your head, which recognizes the bear in front of you and the feeling of fear that is stirring within you helps you to make a good decision to remove yourself from the situation as soon as possible without aggravating the bear.
There is a reason we are able to feel and able to think. One is not superior to the other, even if you are more comfortable with one. They both belong are carrying part of the truth to you. What’s important is that you not react on every emotion you feel nor jump to conclusion on every fact you believe you have. The power of truth does not lie in one or the other, but where the head and heart interconnect with each other. This is what we call spiritual discernment, where the journey from the head and heart intersect to help you unfold the truth so you can make the best possible choice in your life.
Your desire to seek truth is the beginning of finding it. Make sure what you uncover is then brought before the God of truth so he can guide and lead you. So can you handle the “Truth”? I know you can.