According to the Meriam-Webster Dictionary, respect means to show high or special regard for someone; the quality or state of being esteemed. How important is respect in life, to oneself, to others, in marriage, in our relationships, for the planet and in everything we do? Grace, I never really pondered the quality of respect. I personally thought I had earned it among friends, colleagues, family, and in my marriage. But when I really think about the respect I have for myself, I sigh with the notion that I lost my sense of respect when I allowed someone to hurt me and betray me the way Adam did.

Sometimes respect is given immediately. As children we are taught to respect our elders, period. We are taught to respect authority, laws, and religious figures. Then, there are other times when we earn someone’s respect by our actions. Evident by what we do daily and who we are to them, they acknowledge the value in us. I thought Adam respected me in this manner, but I think back about how our relationship began. I did not respect myself in the manner that is fitting for a young lady, not giving myself the due respect in the relationship from the very beginning.

Grace, I need to remember that I need to respect myself for others to respect me. A simple lesson verbalized so early on in our childhood development and one that was forgotten as quickly as it was spoken. I decided this is a good learning lesson, once again, so I decided to treat myself to a Pumpkin Spice Soy Latte from Starbucks to “squash” the past and awaken myself to a new journey. Pack your bags, Grace, it’s going to be a long journey.

Guiding Lesson: Eve, I’ve been ready since you were born to take this journey with you. Since I travel light, very light, I am free to go anywhere with you.  And I love that we are starting with R.E.S.P.E.C.T. in regards to how you treat the woman in the mirror.  This is going back to the genesis of who you are. The place where you learned from those around you what this means.

I ask you now to go stand in front of a mirror.  Undress yourself.  Look at the woman who stares back at you.  Look into her eyes.  Continue to look until you are able to see into her soul and the journey that has taken her to this place where you stand.  If she could talk, what would she say to you?  Who helped build a strong sense of respect for who she is?  Who began chipping away or who has hijacked a sense of respect for herself?  When did she buy into this idea and began doing it to herself which justified and condoned others’ treatment of her?

Eve, I know this is a lot to think about.  But it is important to figure who helped build up your respect and who or what situation helped break it down.  I do not want you to dwell on it.  I just want you to understand the story.  You need to know where you are at so that you know where you are going, how to reclaim respect for yourself and what you need to do to create a new life.  There are no wrong answers only pieces of the puzzle that you are trying to make sense of.

It’s time to rise up and claim what was always yours to begin with.  It is your right and key to freedom.  I leave you with the following words to help you on your journey . . . Grace

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God By Caterina Clarke

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God
Hear the calling of the Holy One
For He anxiously awaits to pour His blessings upon you
To fill you up with mercy and love
To fill you up with strength and compassion
To fill you up with peace and justice

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God
For the battles you fight will strengthen you
For the tears you shed will purify you
For the scars you bear will identify you
The Lord God is good and will not abandon you
He dwells in your heart and lives in your soul
In your mind He manifests His Spirit

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God
You are chosen to bear his sons and daughters
You are chosen to bear Christ to others
You are chosen to bear Love to all
You are mother
You are daughter
You are sister through the Son

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God
A twinkle in the Father’s eye
A masterpiece in disguise
So full of mystery, no man to grasp
For only God knows all you are
And only God makes your presence known
In time, in time, He raises you all

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God
Though small in stature, you rise to the call
Though weak in appearance, you carry the load
Though emotional in nature, you bear the truth

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God
Praise to the Lord, for His faithfulness is revealed
Praise to the Lord, for His gentleness is felt
Praise to the Lord, for His kindness is expressed

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God
You are one with the Father
You are one with His Son
You are one with His Spirit
And today is the day to worship together as one.

Arise, Arise beloved Daughter of God


Posted by Marisol Barrios as MissGuided Mom's "Eve"

After 12 years of marriage, I found myself suddenly divorced with two sons to raise. Inspired by life's events, I decided to create "Eve" and tell her story, a story that will resonate with many women. "Eve" will take you through the good, the bad, and the ugly of marriage, motherhood, career and divorce. After numerous delicate situations, she decides to surrender her life to a higher being and welcomes her guardian angel who teaches her life lessons. Join "Eve," her guardian angel, and friends as she takes you through an unimaginable journey of self-discovery. (Pictured: Caterina Clarke as MissGuided Mom's Guardian Angel "Grace" and Marisol Barrios as MissGuided Mom's "Eve")

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