I know this doesn’t have anything to do with work, but I really don’t like the outcome of the rain. When it rains, I have to leave at least 45 minutes earlier from work just to make it in time to pick up my boys from two different locations. I am grateful that the public relations firm I am employed at is a family-friendly work environment. And, good thing for me, as a publicist, my work tools consist of phones, e-mail, and Internet. Lucky me!
The other day I did not make it on time to pick up my son at the second location. There was an accident on the freeway and delayed me a bit. Usually working parents have to pay at minimum $1 for every minute they are late. Can you imagine what that can add up to on a rainy day? When it rains, it can certainly pour, and it cost me $12.
In addition, to leaving early to pick them up, I have to also leave early in the morning. With two small children, I find it quite challenging. So any ideas on how to get organized in the morning would be helpful. Some divine intervention would be welcomed right about now, Grace…waiting…waiting…waiting…I am starting to pack their snacks and layout their clothes at night. Getting them to brush their teeth in the morning is like pulling teeth. Oh, that happened the other night, when Jonathan decided to pull his tooth so he could put it under the pillow for the tooth fairy to come.
Children, gotta love them. They make me smile, teeth and all!
Guiding Lesson: Eve, I can see how the rain can really throw your whole day off. As a working mother, every second counts. There is no room for anything unexpected to happen. However, life with children is a life that is filled with lots of unexpected, unplanned and unforeseeable moments. Your children don’t have the same sense of urgency. They live in the moment. They are not thinking of what they need to do in an hour. All they know is how they feel and what they need right now.
So what is a working mother to do? Is there anything that one can do to make the morning less hectic, more efficient and less challenging? And then, when the weather changes, it’s like having to jump over additional hurdles that only increase your level of chaos. By the time you get to work, you need a nap to recover and possibly a massage. We know that even though your organization is wonderful, taking a nap in the beginning of the day or getting a massage is not part of their culture.
Eve, you are doing a great job of packing the snacks and getting their clothes ready the night before. The more you can do before you go to sleep, the better your morning will be. I know that some moms even prepare the breakfast table and put out anything that is not perishable. You may want to even try getting up 10- 15 minutes earlier. Every five extra minutes can really make a difference if one of your children decides they need to find that toy they have not used for over a year, but need it that day for school.
Another idea that might be helpful is to create a chart for your children to clearly visualize what is expected of them. Children like to know what is expected and love to be recognized when they accomplish things. The chart also serves as a way to get everyone moving toward the same goal. This chart also starts helping them become responsible, create good habits and feel a sense of accomplishment. It’s a great opportunity to empower your children based on their age.
Now regarding the rain, I can’t stop it, but I can give you a sense of peace to help you let go of what you cannot control. Rain is a time to navigate the world at a slower pace, notice that the world does not revolve around us and appreciate the silent yet necessary changes of the seasons. It can be very healing to simply enjoy and be grateful that the rain comes as an answer to the earth’s thirst to be refreshed, renewed and re-energized.
You are just as thirsty as the earth. You too, need to be refreshed, renewed and re-energized. When was the last time you went out in the rain, played and allowed the drops to dance on your face? It’s okay to leave early. It’s okay to change your routine to stop or maybe stay home. You don’t need to be like a mouse that spins on a never-ending wheel. Rain is an invitation that allows your soul to catch up to you. The busyness doesn’t provide any nourishment and sometimes it is okay to just slow down. Well, let me leave you with this: “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us” by John Dryden. However, when it rains, “Let the rain kiss you. Let the rain beat upon your head with silver liquid drops. Let the rain sing you a lullaby” by Langston Hughes.