Divorce, time, relax, nourish body, mind, spiritWith every door that closes, another one opens. And this time, it’s opening to Aruba! I’m leaving on a girls’ trip to the island for a week. My friends and I are so excited to be having some fun in the sun. I did tell them, however, that I’m going to eat, sleep, and read books. After my divorce, I could use time to relax and nourish my body, mind, and spirit.

Replenishing the body

Food is a time-tested activity that soothes us. Eating to nourish the body, rather than for emotional reasons, is a healthy habit. Cultural food experienced among friends will not only feed my body, but it’ll create new memories I can treasure. Who would disagree that good food and wine is best served with company?

Snoozing my mind

Resting the mind is essential to recover. This is exactly what I need. In my waking hours, I think a mile a minute. Before I can even finish one thought, I’ve started on another one. Napping helps me recharge and is recommended for everyone. Did you know that there’s a study that concludes the benefits of sleep include stronger memory and longer attention spans? Learning how to rest my mind will be a discipline I’ll practice daily. And starting on that habit is best begun in Aruba. Not to mention, sleeping helps the body recover too. 😉

Filling the well

When people think of nourishing the body they think of eating healthy, sleeping, and exercising. What I am doing is scheduling time to nourish my spirit or fill my well. For years I gave of my spirit to Adam and the well dried up. Planning to get away and enjoy the company of great friends is one way to nourish the spirit. Reading spiritual or personal development books is another planned activity to water the well. Connecting to myself in body and mind is yet another thing to do, carefully listening to what I need.

My body, mind, and spirit are saying, “Aruba, here we come!”

Guiding Lesson: 

divorce, present, reimagine,  reinvent, life, spiritual, grace, ChristianEve,

Aruba . . . how exciting! Sign me up. I could use a break myself. And then after a divorce, I’m glad you’re taking time to reboot and recharge.  

Endings are, in fact, new beginnings. Some you choose and some choose you. However, the choice you always have is how you decide to respond to the situation. Your response to go to Aruba is a great one. It is looking at the moment without looking back and without looking ahead.

During hard times, endings, or doors closing, the only thing you can do and have control over is the present. It is where your next heartbeat, your next breath, and your next step take place. Just one beat, one breath, and one step at a time. However, this is not easy because it is tempting to go back to what you know or to skip steps to get out of where you are. The present moment is the moment that is the most difficult to live in. It is the step that most want to try to speed up.        

So you must learn to be in this new space you find yourself in. When you look in the mirror, you may question your entire life and try to figure out what is real and what it means to be you in your new surroundings. This is why your plan is perfect. Getting away from your physical location, you can arrive and connect with your physical being – mind, body and soul. Aruba allows you to be and avoid from being lured into stepping back or stepping into the future too fast.

When you’re broken, you need to put back pieces but not necessarily in the same way. It’s a chance to reimagine and reinvent your life. But wait, not too fast for it is in the quiet, the silence, and the stillness that the greatest things happen. Just because you can’t see doesn’t mean that something extraordinary is not taking place. Look around your world. Look and really see the amazing miracles all around you. Nature is filled with small and long periods of what seems to be stillness, where nothing is happening. Yet, grass, flowers, trees, beaches and so much more are growing and creating the beauty just for you.

So go to Aruba and be still. Be aware. Simply be.

Here is a poem to reflect on:

Start Close In  by David Whyte

Start close in,
don’t take the second step
or the third,
start with the first
close in,
the step
you don’t want to take.

Start with
the ground
you know,
the pale ground
beneath your feet,
your own
way of starting
the conversation.

Start with your own
give up on other
people’s questions,
don’t let them
smother something

To find
another’s voice,
your own voice,
wait until
that voice
becomes a
private ear
to another.

Start right now
take a small step
you can call your own
don’t follow
someone else’s
heroics, be humble
and focused,
start close in,
don’t mistake
that other
for your own.

Start close in,
don’t take
the second step
or the third,
start with the first
close in,
the step
you don’t want to take.

Posted by Marisol Barrios as MissGuided Mom's "Eve"

After 12 years of marriage, I found myself suddenly divorced with two sons to raise. Inspired by life's events, I decided to create "Eve" and tell her story, a story that will resonate with many women. "Eve" will take you through the good, the bad, and the ugly of marriage, motherhood, career and divorce. After numerous delicate situations, she decides to surrender her life to a higher being and welcomes her guardian angel who teaches her life lessons. Join "Eve," her guardian angel, and friends as she takes you through an unimaginable journey of self-discovery. (Pictured: Caterina Clarke as MissGuided Mom's Guardian Angel "Grace" and Marisol Barrios as MissGuided Mom's "Eve")

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