I was pleasantly surprised when my dad came to our home and stayed for some time. I rarely ever had personal conversations with my dad so at my age now I revel in this special time.
A few gratuitous thoughts he shared with me that I think are worth spreading:
- When you wake up, thank God for the ability to see, see the joy and happiness in your children and grandchildren’s faces.
- Thank God for the use of your arms, arms that can hug people.
- Thank God for the ability to speak, speak the words “I love you.”
- Thank God for hearing in the hope they might say “I love you” in return.
- Thank God for the wisdom to know when to take it or leave it. As you get older, you realize that you have a choice, a choice to accept things the way they are or to unburden the weight off your shoulders.
By the end of our conversation, I was in tears. I guess I just felt like he validated my decision to leave Adam. Again, I felt a sense of relief and an overwhelming feeling of peace. I was at peace.
Eve, What a special gift to stop, listen, and appreciate those that have walked longer, experienced more, and loved much on this earth. Their wisdom is meant to be shared so that others may choose to see with the eyes of the soul and choose to live with gratitude just where they are.
It’s wonderful that you are aware and tapped into your dad’s wisdom. I know how busy it’s been as you are going through your divorce and trying to juggle your new role, your children’s emotions, and your job. It hasn’t been easy and second-guessing your choice is normal. That is when you need to reach out to the right people so you can reach deeper into yourself where the truth is affirmed and revealed.
The beauty of your conversation with your dad is that both of you are giving each other the gift of your relationship as father/daughter. He is imparting wisdom and you are giving him the gift of your presence. You both need each other to live in greater gratitude, love, and peace. This is an example that one day you will do with your children and they, in turn, will be fully present to you. Your dad’s simple, caring gesture will have ripple effects in your family’s future.
So Eve, remember the words he spoke. Remember the wisdom he freely gave. Remember the great gift of each other’s presence, in relationship together. Words are beautiful and can touch you. But when words fade, our experience and connection of the relationship can live on by continuing the example with your children.