I was blind when I said my vows, literally. I didn’t want to wear my glasses so instead I tried putting contact lenses on the day before the BIG day, but just couldn’t get those little suckers on. I was impatient, nervous and jittery about putting anything on my eye. Instead I walked blindly down the aisle on my wedding day with the help of my dad, of course, and couldn’t see Adam until I approached him. Or was it when my veil was lifted above my head? Details. Lack of glasses or contact lenses, veil distortions, it’s all the same thing—blinded by something that I lacked or put in front of me.

I didn’t have perfect vision, no 20/20 eyesight. But who does, right? Who ever sees anything so perfectly? At that time, Adam was perfect: tall, dark, handsome, intelligent, funny, philosophical, adventurous, and spontaneous. He was everything I wanted. I should know. I knew instantly I was going to marry him. After one month of dating, I just knew he was it. We had a short courtship, only six months, and then we became engaged. Our engagement was only one year and we soon married. And that brings me back to our wedding day.

We were caught up on the day’s itinerary that we forgot to savor our wedding meal. We enjoyed the evening with our family, our friends and each other. We had fun dancing, coming home and counting the money from the dollar dance. We asked each other where we wanted to go on our honeymoon. We didn’t have money to plan one so we relied on the money dance to treat ourselves to a few getaway days. Off to Napa it was! And a new love blossomed—oh, not with Adam—but with Merlot!

Guiding Lesson: Oh, my dear Eve!  I know how much you love your Merlot.  You and Merlot are two peas in a pod.  Like Merlot you tend to move quicker even if the situations or people are truly not ripe for harvest.  It really didn’t matter if you could have seen clearly or not on your wedding day because like Merlot, your drive can’t be contained easily.  So, of course, your relationship with Merlot blossomed.  Was there anyone else who was as ripe and ready for life as you were that day?  We don’t build a relationship with things by accident.  Our Spirit knows what we are lacking and we then try to fill it with something that never really quenches our thirst.  So Eve, what are you thirsting for?  What would happen if you were to slow down, truly see clearly and savor the life around you?

Posted by Marisol Barrios as MissGuided Mom's "Eve"

After 12 years of marriage, I found myself suddenly divorced with two sons to raise. Inspired by life's events, I decided to create "Eve" and tell her story, a story that will resonate with many women. "Eve" will take you through the good, the bad, and the ugly of marriage, motherhood, career and divorce. After numerous delicate situations, she decides to surrender her life to a higher being and welcomes her guardian angel who teaches her life lessons. Join "Eve," her guardian angel, and friends as she takes you through an unimaginable journey of self-discovery. (Pictured: Caterina Clarke as MissGuided Mom's Guardian Angel "Grace" and Marisol Barrios as MissGuided Mom's "Eve")


  1. I remember my love at first sight with Merlot. It seems Merlot at times understands us more than Adam will ever. I feel its not the veil or the not wearing lenses that we are blinded by, its the commitment of giving all of us to others that blinds us even when its not good for us. Thank you for your post. !!!!!



  2. Wow! It’s like you read my thoughts….that’s exactly how I feel now, looking back on that day. And I was literally blind too….in more than one way.



  3. Merlot never get’s jealous when you have a night out with Syrah, Pino Noir or Sangiovese.



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