Adam is giving me a hard time about leaving the house since I pay for the utilities, car payments, life insurance and other household bills. Since we are not divorced and made these housing arrangements, I am not getting any temporary child support and alimony. Our finances have remained status quo. I just know I can’t continue like this and I certainly don’t think it’s fair when Adam has also not paid the mortgage for two months. These non-payments will be reflected on my credit report and I need to get into an apartment soon.
I am praying that God will help me through this dilemma. I need an apartment quickly. Selling the house is the best decision we can make unless Adam wants to keep it, but I don’t know if that will be possible. I hear a red velvet cupcake calling me…coming!
Eve, financial matters can really eat away at your very existence. What makes it difficult is that everyone has different views on this topic. Some link this to freedom to help them live a certain lifestyle. Others see it as something you must constantly work towards. It can also be tied to your responsibilities that some don’t want to acknowledge since their lives are fine whether they are financially responsible or not. You also may have known some people who hold on so tight while others spend before they even have it. And of course, many see it as a way to define how much power they have, who they are and what they can possess. So you can have a healthy outlook or a negative one that imprisons you from living life to the fullest.
What is a single mother to do to remain healthy in all aspects of her life especially when someone else’s actions or non-actions impact your existence? Financial matters can be very complicated and become more so when going through a separation. Some parties see this area as an opportunity to get even or hurt the other. The good news is that no matter what your external situation is, you can remain at peace. Check out this interesting article I found that might get you started. Enjoy it and remember you can bank on the pearls of grace. While finances evaporate, pearls of grace accumulate and you can take them with you into forever…You have my word!
Oh boy! You and I are doing the same dance right now! Good luck!